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In such a time of uncertainty all around us, it is paramount that we live with openness. Growth is not about being steadfast in your beliefs or judgements of others. Maturation is achieved through our ability to listen, process, and behave out of love not fear or hate. Every day is a new day for us to explore our potential by acting open to the world around us. My perception might be mine to own yet being able to see your view is the gateway to inclusion and resolve to differences. Be open and act accordingly! #peace #peaceful #selfcare #selflove #happiness #growth #openness #mentalhealth #belonging #actions #self #development #being #human #judgement #fear #hate #psychology #life #lifecoach #psychotherapy #counseling @zencare.co @psych_today @good_therapy @guttman_psychology @menshealthmag @americanpsychologicalassoc #completegameplan

An incredibly powerful statement that you cannot take lightly. Vulnerability or another way to view it, being open & available is the fundamental action needed to achieve our happiness. The act of being vulnerable involves healthy conflict, sitting with emotions, opening up to others, and being kind to yourself. This openness could result in powerful intimate relationships, life balance, & self love. In my next post I will talk more about how to take the next steps to scare yourself and be your true vulnerable self. #happiness #mentalhealth #growth #love #vulnerability #positiveenergy #positivemindset #conflict #emotions #healthy #psychology #psychotherapy #psychotherapist #counselor #life #lifecoach #anxiety #friends @psych_today @good_therapy @menshealthmag @maverick_deutsch @therapynetwork @americanpsychologicalassoc @marriagestory @zencare.co #completegameplan

Part 2 Yesterday I discussed the process in which we manage triggers and can go to a reactive place which can lead to dysfunctional and unwanted behaviors. Imagine not walking away from a heated exchange with our partner. Inevitably, hurtful comments will occur. When we do walk away, we do with some regret and intense emotion. Once the dust settles we could manage this in 3 possible scenarios:⁣ ⁣ 1. I blame my significant other for the way they made me feel and justify my actions based on their inability to understand my stance. ⁣ ⁣ 2. I shame myself for being so reactive. I beat myself for losing my temper and reacting in a way that does not depict my true feelings.⁣ ⁣ 3. I recognize that I was hurt and triggered by emotions of not feeling worthy that might stem from childhood experiences and previous scripts/narratives. ⁣ I am aware that I go to this place of hurting my partner when I am feeling scared or wounded so I push them away. I am not proud of that but that is a place I go to, that protects me from these uncomfortable feelings. Moving forward I will try to reduce the intensity and frequency of these reactive behaviors by catchI got myself when I am in that narrative (feelings of worthlessness) state of reactivity. I know that this will never go away permanently as I am not perfect. I get triggered in life yet if I understand what is happening to me and have the insight to my emotions and behaviors I can see myself clearly. I can learn to cohabitate with this defensive behavior and develop a process to manage when I go there. It won't be easy and I might have slip ups but I am always evolving.⁣ ⁣ The first two reactions come from place of a fixed mindset that leads to a continuation of maladaptive behaviors. The cycle will continue.⁣ ⁣ Clearly the third approach (growth mindset) is the best response to managing our true self. It's not easy and requires to be open without blinders. Being truly self-aware is not hiding from the fear of exposure yet is disclosure through exploration. #mindset #happiness #life #anger #selfcare #lifecoach #therapist #mentalhealth #living #communication #relationships #psychology #love #growthmindset #growth #development

Part 1 True acceptance of ourself doesn't mean dismissing your actions or motives, it means allowing yourself to see the path in which your behaviors are processed, motivated and acted upon. This is done without judgement from unrealistic self expectations of how we should think, process or act. The acceptance comes from a place that we are flawed and do make mistakes, not just now but always. This allows us to be OPEN to our perception of the world. Thus, creating a development model of growth. An example of such growth happens in a normal occurrence when possibly triggered by our significant other. Let's say they activate a reactive behavior within us after making us feel disrespected, less than or not worthy. This emotional response is subtle but ingrained in our inner narrative and defense mechanisms. So now I have been triggered by my mate and I respond in an angry fashion, possibly making them feel less than with shame. Now we have two individuals triggered and communicating is in a heightened negative state. Unless the two individuals can walk away and take a break, this will almost certainly end in a bleak manner..... Let's say that we didn't walk away and it was a heated exchange with some hurtful comments. Now we walk away with some regret and intense emotion. Once the dust settles we can manage this in a multitude of ways. Tomorrow I will continue the discussion and explore the 3 possible scenarios that we most typically encounter when managing this typical exchange. #mindset #positivemindset #selfawareness #lifecoach #self #vulnerability #best #great #trueself #psychotherapy #psychology #counseling #mentalhealth #happiness #living #fulfillment @maverick_deutsch @psych_today @good_therapy @americanpsychologicalassoc @menshealthmag @psychologyfact_ @lifecoachleads #completegameplan

The life journey can be rough at times and no one is immune to this. The greatest struggle in the pain that we might experience is the self blame we inflict on ourselves. The shame model of personal development we have inherited from generation after generation of parenting, casts this perception that if we beat ourselves up enough, we will fix the behavior. It's absolutely contrary! All that does is continue the vicious cycle. Therefore, our road map to growth is self acceptance and learning to accept our flaws and mistakes. We will never be perfect and once we reduce that expectation of ourself, we can start accepting our true being. The true meaning of loving yourself. #selfcare #selfacceptance #flawed #loveyourself #love #happiness #living #life #lifecoach #fulfillment @maverick_deutsch #mistakes #psychotherapy #therapy #therapist @brunogunn @psych_today @good_therapy @life @menshealthmag @guttman_psychology @barrettpall @sportscenter @latimes #accomplishments #leapoffaith #completegameplan